The questions that follow each section are questions to consider when you’re thinking about whether to continuing seeing him—especially if you have the intention of dating with the purpose of finding a life-partner.
These questions might not be as important to you if you’re just dating recreationally and short term.
” It's complicated, even though we don't have any children or shared assets.
While no one gets divorced overnight (as if it just magically happens when you realize you never want to see that person again), in our case it’s taking longer than it should.
Relationships have gotten really complicated these days.
With people marrying less and divorcing more, it's no wonder that the opportunity, and challenge, of dating while separated has become pretty commonplace.
In fact, I pity any man who dated me when I was separated; I was messed up, and didn’t even know it!I also hasten to add that not separated man is disastrous to date – and should be considered as a unique individual.My concern, however, is that women are blindly and/or naively getting involved with separated men without understanding the huge risk: that is, . If your separated man consistently avoids talking about his divorce or says things to minimize or downplay it, consider it a warning sign worth flagging.That way, should the topic come up later, I can actually say, “Oh, I told you, didn’t I? I struggle enough with the fact that my marriage came to an end after just a year and a half, that my husband cheated on me, and left me for a girl 28 years his junior, just two years older than his daughter from a previous marriage.I guess you just didn’t hear me.”Being married, but separated, is no picnic. All of that is embarrassing, no matter how you slice it or how many times friends and family tell me that he’s the one who should be embarrassed.